Life is about choices. I was once on a safari in Africa and unsure if my aim would drop a beast in front of me. My beautiful guide lowered my rifle with her hand. With the setting Serengeti sun, her eyes looked into mine. The clawed animal walked out of aim and she said to me simply, “Pick your shot.” At multiple moments in our lives we are advised to use selection. We’re to analyze our options in finance, in battle and most definitely in romance. This is not only a wise action but it is the right one.
In today’s world of dating, women exercise this privilege repeatedly. Screening the pool of potential paramours is a good idea that Players need to adopt. There are those who are right for us and there are definitely those who are wrong. Pick your shot, pick your battles and learn how to pick a woman. The best way to begin to learn how to pick the right girl is to learn the women to avoid. Navigate yourself away from the choppy waters of the crazies, the unpredicatables and the angry females who prowl the dating world.
Use the information below as a guide — The Player’s list of five types of women to avoid. I’ve encountered them all and in great detail. Take this advice and avoid the mistakes I have made. Life is a great teacher, but a bad date is truly a professor. This list offers a starting point for your tutelage in avoiding the bad while looking for the good that eventually turns ugly.
1- The Smart-Arse
What man doesn’t enjoy a cerebral opponent? What man doesn’t want a woman who has an opinion, has a personality and can participate in a conversation or debate on just about any topic? Of course a hot body is a turn-on, but a true Player recognises a hot mind and a blazing personality. These are the absolute aphrodisiacs. A woman with verbal confidence is a true catch. But when confidence is locked on contentious and confrontational, you should make plans to avoid her. The Smart-Arse drips sarcasm. She enjoys answering and asking questions with a tone and an attitude that pushes away the nicest of suitors. Her words drip with venom and her personality is based on making others feel beneath her. She will say she’s confident and that no one understands her sense of humour. You will know she’s a smart-arse, and one of the five types of women to avoid.
2- The Gold Digger
All men have experienced the effort to bring together their physical, spiritual and financial aspects. In the process of courting, you will pay for flowers, go out to the movies, take the weekend to go skiing, and lay the world out before her. However, while you spend with emotion and desire, make sure your newfound lady is enjoying you rather than your money. Gold Diggers will eventually show their colours when they begin expecting you to pay for everything including her bills. Going for broke in a relationship is far different from going broke, Player. Remember that.
The Gold Digger is easy to detect, but they are a smart breed. A Gold Digger will instantly speak of high-priced evenings and pricey desserts. She will mention her bills and her need for your financial help. She will also take this time to arouse you to the point of blind obedience. Stand your ground and keep your hand on your wallet.
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3- Ms. Right
While the description may make you scratch your head, it’s not what you think. A sign of a true Player is the appreciation of something good. So if this was Ms. Right for you, I would give you the green light to pursue. But this is Ms. Right, as in Ms. Always Right or Ms. Has To Be Right. This lovely lady can have a host of great qualities and characteristics, but she has a stubbornness for being correct that turns off any man and turns any relationship into a disaster — that’s why she makes it into the five types of women to avoid. She has to be right about anything and everything to the point that your slightest word had better be in agreement with her’s. If you disagree or prove her wrong, there is hell to pay.
While her great qualities may make you want to hang in there and overlook (or modify) her ferocity, Ms. Right is one of the types that cannot be changed. Sorry, my friend, but the best you can do is avoid her. Her pride and her arrogance should send up two red flags that scream turn and run as fast as you can.
4- The Psycho
A broad category with many entries, the Psycho includes the girl who calls, texts or posts to your Facebook wall 10 times a day. It includes the girl who wants to know your every move and asks how you’ve been when she just spoke to you an hour ago. If there is any woman to avoid at all costs, the Psycho is the one. She will insert herself into your life and shake all aspects of your existence. It is easy to fall for the Psycho as she brings an intensity and a passion that is borderline supernatural.
Remember, though, that sex with a psycho may be amazing, but at some point you’ll end up in front of the police. If you fail to look at her from all aspects, you’ll end up with a bothersome, insecure and potentially vicious woman who will show no signs of going away. She will deny her obvious issues despite their growing intensity.
5- The Rebound
She is the most sinister on the list because she is the most difficult to detect. We have all heard the warning of the “rebound guy,” but what about the female counterpart? Like the Psycho, this girl tends to come on strong, hot and heavy. Her seductive ways could weaken some of the strongest Players. Falling into her traps, you’ll bypass your better judgment and fall hard. You believe that this is the one; you believe that this is a great relationship in the making.
But the truth is that you were just a lay, just a sexual encounter to help her past the man who recently broke her heart. The Rebound is well aware of how great you are, Player in training. Over the course of your courtship, you’ll gradually find that you can do nothing right. You’re either too early or too late. You’re either not ready on time or not giving her time to get ready. See the signs as she shifts from being the comely hotness to the reluctant mute across the dinner table. This change has nothing to do with you. It is the life cycle of the Rebound girl. She has had you and is now done. Once you begin to sense this resistance, with dignity and finesse, bid farewell and remove yourself from the situation. Live and learn
Spanish writer Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra once said, “Forewarned, forearmed…” Knowing the five types of women to avoid should help you begin your own guide of mistakes best made by others, not by you. Know this as well, there are definitely women out there worth pursuing. Rather than focusing on those you want to avoid, put your efforts into finding those that are compatible to you and continue those pursuits. In the end, the biggest mistake to make is not trying to date one of the aforementioned five, it’s not trying to date at all. Take a chance and don’t hate The Player.