If you are sick and tired of being rejected by women and have gotten to the point where you’re asking, “Why do women hate me?” here 5 possible reasons why it is happening to you…
1. You think that women should like you because you are nice, kind and polite to them
Why do women hate me?
You might be an intelligent, good, decent man who deserves to be loved and wanted by women, but you’re not going to get that in return for simply being nice to them.
If you want women to like you and want to be with you, the missing ingredient that you’ve been failing to add into your interactions with women is sexual attraction. You can’t make up for a lack of sexual attraction by being very kind, nice and polite and then expect that women like you for that.
Women want to feel sexual attraction for you, just like you want to be with a woman who you feel sexually attracted to.
You can make women feel that way about you, but you do need to make some minor adjustments to your approach to women when you talk to them and interact with them.
Here’s the thing…
Pretty much every guy who feels that women hate him is simply using the wrong approach to women when it comes to dating and sex. It’s not that women hate who is and will never like him, but they simply don’t feel attracted to the approach the he uses when he talks to them and interacts with them.
For example: A guy who is hated or disliked by women will be really nice, polite, kind and considerate when talking to a woman and then hope that she will be nice to him and like him in return.
He will try his best to show her that he is a good, trustworthy guy who has good intentions with her and will treat her nicely.
He will also want to show her that he is interested in who she is as a person, cares about her wellbeing and would never do anything to hurt her, embarrass her or break her heart.
In other words, he will treat her like a princess and essentially kiss her ass and in return, he hopes that she will like him, love him and want to have sex with him.
Rejected for being a nice gentleman
He assumes that a woman will think, “Wow, this guy is really nice. He’s not like other guys who only want to have sex with me. This guy is different. I should be with him.”
Yet, that’s not how it works.
What if I told you that being nice to a woman doesn’t obligate her to be romantically interested in you?
Women do appreciate when guys are nice to them, but niceness isn’t enough to make her want to have sex with a guy or start a relationship with a guy.
A woman wants to first feel sexually attracted to a guy and if he is then nice to her as well, she will excited to have found such a charming, exciting guy and she will want him all for herself.
However, if a guy interacts with a woman and is only nice to her, she won’t feel excited because there is no sexual attraction and he is one of 95% of guys who try to use the nice guy approach on women to get laid or get a girlfriend.
…and she’s sick and tired of it.
She wants to feel sexually attracted to a guy, not just experience friendly feelings (i.e. no sexual feelings) and then be expected to want to be with a guy just because he is being nice to her.
That is not how women work.
You’ve got to make her feel attracted to you first, rather than acting (yes, acting) like you just want to be her friend.
You can still be nice to her (I’m nice to women and I’ve enjoyed my choice of women for years now), but you must ALSO make her feel sexually attracted and aroused by the way that you interact with her.
Watch this video to understand why only being nice to a woman will often result in a rejection…
So, how can you make a woman feel attracted to you when you interact with her?
You simply need to display some (not even all) of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that naturally attract women.
For example: Confidence, charisma, masculinity that makes her feel feminine and girly in comparison to you (i.e. how you think, talk, feel, behave, take action, respond and react to her), charm and humor.
If you display traits that women find naturally attractive in men, then women will automatically (whether they want to or not) feel attracted to you.
That is how nature works: Display attractive traits = Attractive.
It’s as simple as that.
So, if a guy interacts with a woman and he is being nervous, self-doubting and unsure of himself around a woman, she is not going to feel attracted to him.
Why? Well, if you understood how a woman’s attraction for a man really works, then you’d already know that women feel attracted to the emotional strength of men (e.g. confidence, high-self esteem) and turned off by the emotional weakness (e.g. insecurity, nervousness, low self-esteem).
Of course, some of the guys who are asking the question, “Why do women hate me?” will also add in, “How am I supposed to have high self-esteem when women hate me?”
Simple: Start attracting women when you interact with them by displaying some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that naturally attract women.
When you do that, women will show interest in you, treat you nicely and want to be with you…and what will happen then?
You will become confident in your ability to attract women and you will feel good about how many women like you.
The result? You have confidence and high-self esteem. You will also have a girlfriend or be getting laid regularly if that’s what you want.
Yet, if you have no idea how to attract women and don’t even try to improve your understanding of attraction from this moment onwards, then you can’t expect women to suddenly start treating you any better, because you still won’t be making them feel any better about you.
A woman wants a guy who has the ability to make her feel sexually attracted and turned on and then, if he also happens to be a good, kind man then she sees that as a welcome, exciting bonus.
However, if all that a guy has to offer a woman is his kindness and she gets the impression that he’s only being nice to get to spend time with her and hopefully grow on her, she will usually be cold towards him or reject him rather than have to put up with him pursuing her for months or years without ever understanding that she just doesn’t feel any attraction for him.
At this point, some guys might say, “Why don’t women just tell me that I’m not making them feel attracted?” and the answer is simple: She doesn’t want to teach you how to make her feel attracted.
She wants you to be able to naturally attract her by displaying attractive traits, rather than have to take on a role as a big sister, mother or teacher for you to explain how to be attractive to women.
She also doesn’t want to “give a guy a chance” even though she feels no attraction for him, or be nice and mistakenly give a guy the impression that if he keeps talking to her or pursuing her, she will eventually give him and “let him” be with her.
She wants a guy who makes her feel as though she would be lucky to be with him and thankfully, it is very easy to make a woman feel that way.
Being a challenge for a woman to win over is the quickest, easiest way to get a woman to go from feeling attracted to you to pursuing you and hoping that she gets to be with you.
You can put a woman through that process when you first talk to her, or you can begin the process with a woman you already know simply by starting to make her feel very attracted to you.
2. You think that women play stupid mind games because you don’t understand why they have to test men
Why do women play mind games?
When a guy gets to a point in life where is pissed off at women and is wondering, “Why do women hate me?!!” he will often feel as though women play stupid mind games and are a waste of time and energy.
However, guys like that simply don’t understand that when a woman acts cold or disinterested at the start of an interaction, she’s almost always doing that to simply test the guy’s confidence.
Why do women want to test a guy’s confidence?
Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength of men (e.g. confidence, high self-esteem, determination to succeed) and turned off by the emotional weakness (e.g. insecurity, low self-esteem, fear of success or feeling unworthy of success).
So, if a man starts interacting with a woman who wants a confident guy, she will almost always test him by being cold and disinterested at the start.
She has to do that to him to test his confidence and see if he is going to crumble under the pressure, or if he is going to remain confident.
If he remains confident, she will then begin to let down her guard and show a friendly, easy-going side of herself that she doesn’t show to other guys who lack confidence.
However, if the guy crumbles under pressure (i.e. he becomes nervous and unsure of himself), she will rapidly lose interest in him and may even coldly reject him to get him away from her so she doesn’t have to waste any more time on a guy who doesn’t have what it takes to make her feel attracted.
3. You act like you only want to be friends with women, but they know that you want sex or a relationship
Pretending to only want to be a friend
If you are one of the many modern men who are asking, “Why do women hate me?” then you will almost certainly put on an act (yes, an act) of only wanting to be a woman’s nice friend when you first meet her.
When you talk to women that you find attractive, you may come across as neutral (i.e. you won’t show sexual interest) and you will try to give her the impression that you just want to get to know her, or you find her interesting or fascinating and simply want to talk to her for that reason.
If a woman is attractive, she will have had plenty of guys (who don’t know how to attract women) use that fake approach on her in the past and she will hate it.
There’s nothing wrong with becoming a woman’s friend before you decide that you want to ask her out, kiss her, take her on a date or have sex with her, but she’s only going to be excited by that kind of courtship if you are also making her sexually attracted and aroused by the way you interact with her.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works…
If you think that women hate you, then you might be surprised by what you learn in the video above.
Especially the part where I disclose the fact that you can CREATE feelings of attraction inside of a woman.
Yes, even you can do that.
When you create feelings of attraction inside of a woman, she will NOT hate you.
She will like you, be interested in you and be open to kissing you, dating you, having sex with you and even starting a relationship.
4. You think it is wrong or “too forward” to make a woman feel sexually attracted and turned on by you during an interaction
I don’t want to be too forward with women
Women hate it when a guy shuts down the sexual side of himself around her because he thinks it is wrong, disrespectful or too forward to make a woman feel sexually attracted.
In fact, women actually refer to guys like that as “creepy” because women know that the guy masturbates at home, feels attracted to women and wants to have a sexual relationship with a woman, but he acts like he would never ever think about sex when talking to a woman.
By shutting that side of himself down, he gives off an awkward, creepy vibe that women hate.
Women can’t relax and trust a guy like that because he is already lying to himself and everyone else by acting like he has no sexual feelings.
Here’s the thing…
We are living in a time where pre-marital sex is accepted and is happening all around us.
No sex before marriage vs. have sex whenever you want
Some guys get angry about that and complain that modern women are slutty, but those guys are simply clinging to a bygone era where a woman would save her virginity for marriage.
Back in the late 1800s and early 1900s for example, a guy would simply approach a woman, be nice to her, show her that he was capable of supporting her (e.g. he’d buy her a gift) and if she liked him, they would date (no touching, kissing or sex) and he’d eventually ask her father for his daughter’s hand in marriage.
Although some men wish that life still worked that way, it doesn’t.
Culture always changes overtime and the “save herself for marriage” trend was something that came and went, just like the Japanese samurais, the top hat wearing English gentleman and the people who used to hate computers and swore never to use one.
Culture always changes.
In today’s world, women are free to have sex with whomever they want.
Modern women are free to shop around until they find the right man
This doesn’t mean that modern women are slutty, but that they simply have the freedom to “shop around” until they find the right guy for them.
Some women settle down early (e.g. my wife was 20 when I met her and I was 35. I’m now 38, she’s 23 and we are going to start a family soon), but if a girl doesn’t meet the right guy, she is free to keep dating and shopping around until she finds a guy who is worth settling down with.
In the past, a woman had to get married and stick with a man for life even if she was unhappy because it was shameful to get divorced.
This was unfair on women, but now that we live in a more civilized society where women can make their own money and support themselves, the rules of the dating game have changed.
In today’s world, women usually choose a guy choose a guy based on how much sexual attraction he makes her feel and then, if he ALSO happens to be a good guy who will treat her well, she sees him as a catch and settles down with him.
However, if a woman is being pursued by a guy who doesn’t make her feel attracted, she doesn’t need to accept him so she can have someone to support her.
Likewise, if a woman gets into a relationship with a good guy who attracted her initially, but he later turns into an asshole who doesn’t treat her well, she also doesn’t have to stick with him.
So, if you want women to like you and want to be with you, it is absolutely essential that you actively trigger her feelings of sexual attraction when you interact with her.
I’ve got to show her that I don’t only want sex
Don’t pretend that you don’t find her attractive or that only want to be a nice, innocent friend to her. Be honest and say, “You’re sexy…I like you” AFTER you have first triggered her feelings of attraction for you.
If you are a good guy and you give a woman that kind of attraction and courtship experience, she will be excited to have finally met a guy who understands how the modern dating scene works.
It’s actually very rare for a woman to meet a good guy who understands what women really want these days.
Based on all my experience helping guys and hearing from women out there, I’d say up to 80% of guys are attempting to attract and pursue women in the wrong way that simply doesn’t match up to how the modern world works.
So, when you are one of the rare guys who knows how to attract women AND give them the modern courtship experience that they are looking for, they will love you for it.
5. You’re not aware that you can make women feel attracted to you whenever you want
You can make women feel attracted to you
You might have gotten to the point where you feel like life is unfair and you are being punished in this lifetime for being such a nice, loving, good man, but that isn’t what is really happening to you.
If you had the skill of being able to actively trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction during an interaction, women would want to be with you and you wouldn’t have gotten to this point where you think that women hate you and life sucks.
Watch this video to understand some of excuses that guys have (including the two excuses I used to have) for their lack of success with women when they don’t know how to attract women…
As you will discover from the video above, all types of guys (even those who others think are ugly) can attract beautiful women and enjoy a successful dating and relationship life.
You might be a good looking guy, an average or below-average looking guy (like me) or you might even consider yourself to be a bit ugly.
Whatever the case is for you, it’s a fact of nature that you can attract women at will by displaying some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that women find naturally attractive about men.
It’s not possible to attract and pick up all women, but it is possible to attract most of the women that you meet.
All you need to do is get used to displaying attractive traits and the majority of women that you interact with from now on will feel some level of attraction for you, or a high level of attraction for you.
The better you get at displaying the traits to trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of women, the more women that you will be able to attract.
Culled from http://www.themodernman.com/blog/why-do-women-hate-me.html