I get so much crap from my friends with siblings about being an only child.
I do admit, I’m a bit of a brat, but I have qualities that people who grew up surrounded by siblings don’t have or perhaps need to develop more.
You see, only children get a bit of a bad rep, thanks to an unfortunate, spoiled handful, who’ve shed an unfair light on us.
Not all people that grew up without siblings are self-centered or spoiled, and the bullying against us must stop. (OK, clearly only children are dramatic, sorry.)
Here are a few reasons why being an only child doesn’t automatically mean you suck:
1. We’re more loving.
We grew up having no one to play with at home and because it often got lonely, we truly cherished our friends. We take our friendships very seriously and will do anything to make sure our friends are happy.
We love our friends because our relationship with our buddies represents an idea of what we think sibling-hood would be like. There’s obvious difference between friendship and sibling-hood, but for the only child, friends are the closest thing to siblings.
2. We’re mature.
At home we were forced to listen in to serious conversations, and as we got older we learned to jump into those conversations and actively participate in them.
We were obliged to mature quickly and because of that, an only child has a level of maturity that most people only dream about having. We’re the people our friends come to with their most serious issues.
We can handle the heavy stuff and can offer advice and good judgment because we’ve been practicing our whole lives.
3. We’re the perfect balance of independent and social.
We’re good at working alone, living alone and doing pretty much anything alone. Solitude has become second nature to us, so we don’t constantly feel the need to always be part of a group. We enjoy quiet time, but we also enjoying being with other people. We succeed in both situations.
4. We’re self-critical, in a good way.
Our parents had all their hopes on us and sometimes the pressure of making them proud, made us a little self-critical.
This quality is hard to get rid of, but in most instances it’s a good quality. We push ourselves to be the best and perform well in school, at our jobs, and in life in general. We strive to achieve our goals because we always want for our parents and the people we love to be proud of us.
We don’t settle for less, ever and we’re constantly on the lookout for ways to self-improve.
5. We adore our parents.
Mom and dad were our first friends.
We can talk to them about anything and we respect their opinions. We actually ask them for advice and consult them before making any brash decisions. We call them, often, and see them any chance we get.
We absolutely adore our parents and in my opinion only children learn to be really awesome parents too. We want that same connection we had with our parents to be mirrored in our relationship with our own children.