Third Pitfall: Decline in intimacy

ll_31Whether we want it to or not, sexual intimacy declines after having a baby, and not surprisingly, this can negatively affect your relationship. Considering how personal and intensely connecting sex can be, and just how important it is in a relationship, sexual disconnection can lead to detachment for couples and cause significant issues. The decline happens for many reasons. First, the woman is advised to abstain from intercourse for 4 to 6 weeks after childbirth.

Even after that time, “women may experience or fear pain from intercourse due to the effects of delivery, an episiotomy, perineal tearing, and/or vaginal dryness due to hormone fluctuations,” Marter said. The ever busy schedules of new parents, along with body image issues and fatigue from new responsibilities all cumulate to cause this decline.