Being in a dedicated relationship with someone you’re crazy about is nothing short of incredible. But you have to make sure you’re ready to give it – and him – your all. You’re only doing yourself a massive favour by making sure of this before you commit to someone.
St. Catherine of Siena once said, “Nothing great was ever achieved without much enduring.” Sure, a relationship is a ton of fun and games. It also requires a great amount of time, hard work and effort in order to make it incredibly spectacular. The couple that’s 100 percent invested in making their bond thrive to its utmost potential will reap the rewards. We all want a love that will last. And at the risk of sounding a tad corny, this is why you need to find yourself before you even think about finding a boyfriend.
If you don’t know yourself, how will he? You need to master yourself before you let someone into your life, or you may end up feeling completely alone in the end. Here are the seven things every gal needs to learn about herself before finding a boyfriend:
1. What Truly Makes You Happy
If you surround yourself with positive people and fun hobbies you absolutely love, chances are, good things will come your way. Positive, happy vibes are the best kinds of vibes, and they attract what they exude. Whether you’re a passionate yogi or love to scout out beautiful gems in the city with your Canon Rebel, welcome those interests into your life. You deserve to fill your life with everything that makes you happy.
2. Your Weaknesses And Imperfections
Nobody’s perfect, and everyone has faults. They’re an integral part of what makes you, you. Identify and embrace them. Self-improvement is the ultimate power. If you’re constantly striving to make yourself the best version of you that you can possibly be, things will only look up… and any guy will find that motivation oh-so sexy.
3. Your Strengths
In the same way he should love you for your faults, he should be the biggest cheerleader for all your strengths, too. By learning what you’re good at and what you may potentially have a talent for, you’re only helping yourself.
4. Your Career Aspirations
It’s the prime time to decide if your current career choice is the right path for you. And if there’s a part of you deep down that’s screaming it’s not, set a plan and go for it. Dreaming big and reaching for the stars has so many benefits. If you love your job, in my opinion, you shouldn’t waste a second not being the best you can be. Challenge yourself, and show everything you have to offer to your team and boss. You may even surprise yourself.
5. Your Goals And Ambitions
Establish your short-term and long-term goals. Then, ask yourself if you’re motivated enough to make them happen IRL. It’s easy to set goals for yourself on paper or in your head. But if they don’t actually happen in reality, you’ve learned you might have something to work on if that goal means the world to you.
6. How You Budget Your Time
Really take note of how you budget your time with family and friends. If you’ve never really thought about this before, it’s an important aspect to work on (or keep the same) once you have a boyfriend. Your main girl squad probably won’t be too pleased if you end up spending every waking second with your future boyfriend. You want to make sure you’re allocating the right amount of time to the people who matter to you the most… without leaving anyone out. If you’re awesome at budgeting your time, go you.
7. Your Limitations
Whether it’s partying or other commitments, you need to learn your limitations. If you don’t learn them now, you could be in for a rude awakening in the future. When it comes down to it, sit back and ask yourself this: Are you ready for you?