Dating Diaries: Yes, I Broke The Rule, I Slept With Him On Our Second Date – Bunmi’s story

Bunmi is a 26-year-old salesperson. She says “I’m a very casual gal. Usually you’ll find me in jeans, a nice top, a scarf, and shoes.” Bunmi describes herself as “a girl-next-door type, who is on a new journey to see where my heart leads, and where my intuition takes me.” She adds “I’m looking for new adventures.” Bunmi likes going on retreats, visiting her extended family, reading, walking and being with friends and family.

I have been single for four years, following a long term relationships. I have met some special men, but most don’t seem interested in anything serious: Since my last relationship, I haven’t experienced what I would call a “committed” relationship. Online, I seem to be contacted by very young guys or very married guys, none of whom are interesting to me at all.

It was suggested to me that I make a list of 100 things I’m looking for in a partner and then tuck it away. I couldn’t come up with that many, but at the top of my list is: an honest, thoughtful, adventurous, happy, funny partner to share life’s experiences with.

I sent the first message to Henry on the dating site. His smile and his outrageous profile spoke to me. We talked on the phone for about a week, and then Henry asked me out for dinner.

We went to a restaurant in my neighbourhood that I’d been “saving” for a date. He had me laughing a lot, and was telling jokes and performing for me. We had a serious conversation as well, about our childhoods, our jobs, cooking, pets, even money and our future goals. He’s a free spirit, and we share a laid-back, meditative outlook on life. He was a true gentleman. He opened doors, ordered dinner for me, paid for dinner, was very attentive all night, and listened as much as he talked. Everything about him turned me on. He kissed me goodnight at my front door and asked me to go out with him again.

On our second date, we went and got sharwarmas. Once again, Henry kept me on my toes all evening wondering which parts of our conversations were true and which parts were embellished. He was a great story-teller and I was fascinated by his sense of humour.

Arriving back at my place, he eagerly asked if I was going to invite him in and without a moment of hesitation I did. He was very inquisitive about my art, my books and even the items stuck on my fridge. Most men don’t even notice if you have furniture in your house, so I was impressed with his genuine interest. While waiting in the kitchen for the kettle to boil, he kissed me.
We ended up making wild, passionate love. Yes… I broke my “rule,” I slept with him on a second date. My instincts totally guided me and the evening was amazing for both of us. He still gives me butterflies in my stomach when I think of him. We’re still dating.

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