Brenda is a 27-year-old brand manager. She says “I went to school for fashion and I think a lot of people would say my style is trendy. I always seem to be the most done up whenever I go anywhere. I’m outgoing, loud, maybe a little bit funny.” She likes to “go to Blue Jays games, movies, hiking, or just grab a couple of drinks and apps at a pub.” Brianna is a “serial monogamist” who says she’s into “kindness, understanding, someone who lets me be me, someone who is encouraging, supportive and understands that I’m determined and strong, but also who tells me when I’m being too stubborn and ridiculous.
“I was in a relationship for a long time and after we broke up, I moved in with some roommates. One of them suggested I try online. I was pretty hesitant at first, but gave it a whirl. I went on a couple of really bad dates. Eventually, I ‘matched’ with Duncan, who seemed like someone I could really like. Oddly enough, I felt an instant connection to him, before we even met. His profile picture was of him shirtless, so I guess I was immediately attracted to that. His bio was a quote from a writer I love and he was surprised that I knew it. We started chatting about all the bands we used to listen to back in the day and for some reason we just didn’t stop messaging. I liked how comfortable it was to talk to him.
“Right after that happened, I dropped my phone in water and it broke. I had zero way of contacting this guy, as we had yet to become Facebook friends or anything. There was radio silence for about five days before I had my phone up and operating again.
“I thought he probably would have moved on, but I messaged him and he responded. I was so relieved. We exchanged numbers and tried to plan a date. On the night we were supposed to go out, he told me he had really bad food poisoning and I thought that was that: food poisoning is an obvious cover story. However, he seemed to be into giving it another try and we planned a second date. That day I was super hungover, as I had been at a friend’s party the night before, so I just asked him to come over to my place. In hindsight it was a risky move to have him come over to my apartment, but I felt like I had known him for years and my roommate was there. I also had no real faith in this going anywhere.
“When he arrived, I was still so sick that I contemplated lying down on the floor right there and wondered in a daze if he would think I was too weird for doing it.
“I was way more nervous than I thought I would be when he got to the door. We gave each other a big hug and he gave me a coffee he had brought me. We sat on the couch for like two hours just talking. We ordered pizza from this place up the street and had some wine. The conversation was like two old friends catching up. We played Scrabble and I kicked his ass! He didn’t care and liked that I won. Later, we decided to watch a movie. I remember feeling a bit nervous about the sitting situation while watching it — would we cuddle, do we hold hands? We sat down on the couch and just as the movie was about to begin he kissed me. Just kind of went for it. I really liked the fact that he was confident in himself. I also liked right off the bat that he was able to ‘contribute,’ in a way. He knew who he was, and I really appreciated that.
“We cuddled and it just felt so easy, like we were supposed to just fit together. As cliché as it sounds, it was like we were supposed to find each other and like we had been missing from each other’s lives until then.
He actually ended up staying the night, although nothing really happened. We watched movies and talked and just hung out more. The next morning we got up and had breakfast and I walked him home. We kissed a bunch and it was hard to say goodbye. We didn’t stop texting and talking on the phone until we saw each other again.
“I definitely didn’t think I would meet the love of my life online, but life is funny and I’m so glad I embraced it.”