Dating Diaries: I Dated My Carpenter And Fell For Him – Liz’s story

Liz is a 34-year-old receptionist.  Liz says, “I would rather dress down than up. Comfort over everything.” Liz’s friends would say she is “low-maintenance. I’m a reliable and dependable person — I’m always on time, and I expect the same of others.” She adds, “I’m friendly and I talk too much, even to people I don’t know.” Liz considers herself “active” and says, “I’m not so much athletic, but I like to keep busy. I love gardening, cooking, going on day trips and playing board games.”

I was single for a couple of years before I met Louis. Most men I know expect an instant attraction and just an hour-long date in a coffee shop, which doesn’t give me a good chance to find out whether or not I’m interested. I can look at a man and know if I find him good-looking or not, but I need some real time and meaningful interaction to decide whether we have rapport and if we would be a match. I don’t have a type, anyway.

That said, I like breakfast for dates — dinner is too expensive, assumptive and obligatory. I was looking for someone with a steady job, a good family background, who was ethical, kind and silly, and who was not demanding. Part of that is not being pushy about things like first dates.

I met Luis on a dating site. After messaging back and forth for a while, he eventually asked me out to dinner. I told Louis that dinner felt awkward to me, and that I’d rather get to know him before a big date. Brainwave! Since I knew that he was a window installer, I asked him if he was interested in replacing a couple of windows at my place. It might be a bit unusual to hire someone instead of date them, but I thought this could work out for both of us.

Louis came to my house to measure my windows, and was right on time. I liked that he was punctual. He was attractive, and he said that I looked even prettier than my photos. Right away it was very comfortable between us. There was no awkwardness or silence; it was more as if we were people who had known each other for a while. Louis showed me photos of his works and  other photographs — he’s really creative. It felt like we were just talking and not sizing each other up or interviewing each other. It was exactly the kind of thing I wanted to have before going on a date, like I’d told him. He even cleaned up after dinner, earning major points.

We agreed to talk again when the windows came in and were ready to be installed. I was excited to see him again, and was hoping he would ask me out on a real date. When he came over to do the work, however, he told me that he had started to date someone else. I decided it was just bad timing and bad luck, and was really disappointed.

A couple of weeks later he sent me an email asking me if I would be interested in being his date at his company’s Christmas party. I was sort of a client, after all! I thought to myself, I guess the girlfriend didn’t work out! We had an amazing time, and our next date was New Year’s Eve. I invited him to stay over in the spare bedroom so we could have a couple of drinks and not worry about driving. He brought some movies and an overnight bag and I cooked dinner. We had wine by the fire, and when he told me to put my feet up in his lap for a foot rub, I was hooked. This was the date I wanted! We’re still very excited about each other.

Culled from http://www.thestar.com/life/2016/01/30/dating-diaries-liz-and-luigi.html

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