Moni is a 26-year-old student. She says “My personal style is ‘student.’ A bit preppy, but at a discount, and sort of ‘west coast’ as well.” Molly likes being outside, hanging out with friends, reading, walking around, and knitting to relax. She says “When I met Kelvin, I had been single for a few years. I wasn’t dating much, maybe twice a year. . . I was focused on finishing my degree and not letting anything get in the way of that.”
Kelvin and I met through mutual friends, Pamela and John, who were getting married. As “best man” and “maid of honour,” Kelvin and I did a lot of emailing, chatting and texting to co-ordinate everything for their nuptials. We’d met briefly once before, but this wedding had us talking to each other constantly. He seemed nice. He was a couple of years older than me, and owned his own business.
The plan was for both of us to stay with Pamela and John for the whole week leading up to the wedding, to help them to get ready and just hang out. There were lots of pre-wedding activities planned, and it was easier if we stayed together. They were getting married in the middle of February, and the day we arrived was the 14th, Valentine’s Day.
About a month before, Kelvin and I were chatting and he said something like, “Since it’s going to be their last Valentine’s Day before they get married, maybe we should clear out and give them some space on the night of the 14th?” I said that this would be a great idea. We agreed on something simple, like dinner, and found out that we both like steak and potatoes. Calvin suggested we go to a restaurant, which did did succulent steaks.
After we talked, I was like, wait. What just happened here? How did we get from “getting out of our friends’ way” to going to dinner, on Valentine’s Day of all days? I wondered, did I just get bamboozled into a first date? I had already said yes — and the prospect of a steak dinner when you’re on a student budget was too good — and I thought, I can’t back out now!
Our friends quickly got word of what had gone down, and this “getting out of the way” turned into A Big Deal. There were questions from everyone about what I was going to wear, what we were going to do and what were we going to talk about.
Valentine’s Day arrived, and I got all dressed up. Since we were both staying with our friends, there was no big reveal. John drove us to the restaurant and told us jokingly to be home by midnight. The restaurant was packed with couples on what is probably one of the biggest nights of the year. We waited for a table in the lounge with other dressed-up “couples.” I was very nervous and thankful when a waiter came around to serve us drinks while we waited.
I don’t remember what we talked about, but I do remember that the conversation never stopped for a moment. Kelvin laughed at my jokes, I laughed at his — he’s really funny. The pressure kind of melted away. It was everything a first date should be: awkward but fun, and full of potential. I even tripped and almost fell flat on my face in my shoes. He was courteous enough to ask me if I was all right before laughing about it with me. I think at the time I was looking for a friend, someone who would listen to me, talk to me, make me laugh. Someone I felt good to be around. I found that right away with Kelvin.
After dinner, and we took a cab back to the apartment, and John and Pam were home. It turns out that after all of that, they had gotten a pizza delivery and eaten on the couch! Smart couple. This was even more awkward, because we were all in the same room when they started asking how the date went. How do you answer that when your date hasn’t left yet, and won’t for another week?
The rest of the week was a lot of fun. It was packed with activities, and even more “dates.” Three months later, Kelvin, I and his dog were an item.
Culled from https://www.thestar.com/life/2016/02/13/dating-diaries-molly-and-calvin.html