Some weeks back, I read about a restaurant with a drink on its menu, which can only be ordered by ladies. The drink called Angel’s Shot is actually a way to ask employees of a restaurant for help, if you’re on a date that isn’t going well.
As I read it, bars and restaurants with this menu installed the notice of this drink menu in women’s restrooms, and it gives customers instructions for how to discretely ask employees for help.
“Is your Tinder or Plenty of Fish date not who they said they were on their profile?” the sign reads. “Do you feel unsafe, or even just a little bit weird? We’re here to help. Just go to the bar and order an Angel Shot.”
If the shot is ordered neat, bartenders know to escort the customer to her vehicle. If ordered with ice, the bartender will call a taxi service. And, if the customer orders an angel shot with lime, the bartender will call the police. It sounds interesting right?
I must say that, I found it interesting, as a lot of blind dates happen these days with many meeting online first before seeing in real life, and one cannot be too careful.
This time around, we have put together some safety rules for both men and women on the dating scene, which you will find handy, whether it’s a first date or a third date.
- Google them!
We are in an age where you can check out someone, without appearing as though you’re stalking them. The dating world is an opportunity to use your amateur investigative skills.
So, you have set up a date? The next thing to do is Google your date, troll their social media pages and if find some questionable info or just get a bad feeling, follow your instincts and call the date off.
- Tell people close to you about the date
A first date with a new guy or babe, who is technically a stranger, is not the time to be forming “secret society.” Always let roommates, friends and family members know when you plan to go out on a date. Give all the proper information about where you are going, who you’re going with (including your date’s name and phone number), and when you expect to be home.
If anything changes regarding your whereabouts during the course of the evening, let them know right away.
It may sound a little overboard, but if no one knows you’re out, they won’t know they should be worried if something should go wrong.
- Provide your own transportation
Many dating sites would advise you to provide your own transportation, when you’re meeting up with someone you don’t know very well, and it’s a life-saving idea.
Uber it or drive your own car, and not only will you have a quick getaway if things get weird, but you’re also keeping your home address hidden from your date, if he/she turns out to be different from your expectations.
- Meet in a public place
This cannot be over emphasized. A first date is not the time to be meeting in each other’s homes or some private places. It’s to get to know each other anyways, and a public place will do the trick nicely.
A familiar restaurant or eatery, at a time when a lot of other people will be present, is a fine choice.
Not only will this decrease your chances of being put in an unsafe situation, but other people may also remember you being in that location, in the event something does happen to you.
- Discuss going on a group date
We know that guys find it really disheartening that you invite a girl out, and she arrives in the company of a friend…or even two.
We agree, it can be frustrating but how about if those friends bring a date along and you can have fun making new friends and learning about your date in the company of other people, who have known her/him?
It might just be fun and provides you with a partner, who can keep an eye on you, in case, someone tries to behave funny or you’re drinking too much.
It’s also a great way to get a second opinion if you are getting bad vibes from a date.
- Don’t leave your food or drink unattended
This may seem overboard, but we are pretty sure we have all heard about date rape and even deaths resulting from first dates. It’s preventable.
We have probably heard about some drugs, which are odourless, colourless date rape drugs that can make you disoriented or unconscious.
For that reason, when out on a date, don’t accept a drink from your date unless you open it yourself or watch it being prepared by a bartender.
- Watch your alcohol consumption
While we are still talking what you drink and eat, it’s not a great idea to drink more than one or two beverages while out with someone you don’t know very well.
We all know alcohol lowers natural inhibitions and makes it easier for a potential predator to talk you into leaving a public place.
Sure, dating can be awkward and it’s easy to fall back on a little social lubrication to keep conversation flowing easier, but when you think about it, is it really worth it?
These are dating safety rules that we can all use while out on a date with a stranger, who takes our fancy.
Stay safe and stay in love.
Kristine is a member of The Lovelint team. She is a down to earth person, who says it as it is. Having given relationship advice for years in a national daily, she has found out that fear is one of the main reasons holding people back from enjoying a healthy, happy relationship. She is married with kids and is willing to listen to you and help as much as you let her to.