Jay’s Dating Diary: My Fourth Date With Mr. Nobody

How I came to know X
A male friend of mine spoke to a few of his friends about my challenge and asked them if any of them would be interested in going on a date with me and one of them said yes and in fact from what I was told he was very interested because it’s not often that you get feedback after going on a date.

My friend sent me X’s number and asked me to call him. I didn’t for a while because I was busy but I eventually did. When I called him the conversation was awkward and brief. X said he was getting ready to go out and he’ll call me the next day. A week later I still hadn’t heard from him, so I got back in touch with my friend and asked him if X was still interested in going on a date with me. The next morning I saw a missed call from X. He had called me at 23:45, the night before. When I saw the time that he called I have to say I wasn’t impressed. I didn’t know him well enough for him to call me at that time. In fact I don’t even know the basic things about him that people tend to know after meeting someone for the first time.


Even though I was disappointed I thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt and I called him that morning and unsurprisingly the phone rang and went to voicemail. I sent him a text message that evening and asked him if he was still interested in going on the date and called for the second time that day and again I was greeted by the voicemail. At this point I had given up on him. He sent me a message the next day apologising for missing my calls and mentioned that he’ll get through to me later to arrange a suitable time for us to go on the date. I replied and highlighted the times that I would be available but also made it clear that I could make myself available on a different day and time if needs be.


Since then I have not heard from him and I really do not wish to anymore. At first when my friend sent me his number I was quite interested in going on a date with X because I thought it was rather strange for a guy to agree to go on a date with me after being told of my challenge, especially as we didn’t know each other. When I found out his reason for wanting to do it I actually felt quite happy that I could help him out by giving feedback on my blog site. It reminded me of some of the reasons why I started blogging in the first place and I was quite chuffed because I didn’t expect to be in a position to help people out so early on.


Thoughts of X

Honestly, I’m happy that X showed his true colours from the start because I would have been upset if we had made plans to meet and he didn’t turn up. It happened to me once before and I just couldn’t understand why it happened because it was a second date with a guy that I had previously been on a date with and our first date went very well. Even on the day that this guy didn’t show up I was in communication with him whilst I was waiting for him and he said he was on his way, so when the play that we were both meant to be watching finished I was very confused as to why this guy didn’t show up. Even till today I’m still confused. I gave him several chances to explain himself, by the time I realised I wasn’t going to get one I just had to leave him in the past.

Even though I’ve been late to the 3 previous dates, I just couldn’t let somebody down by not showing up, especially if I know that they are waiting for me. I just couldn’t do it. I think it’s one of the most disrespectful things that you can do to anybody. If I don’t want to see someone, I wouldn’t make plans to see them. I think the time spent making plans is already a waste of my time if I don’t want to see the person.


Back to my thoughts of X, based on everything I’ve said above; X is definitely not suitable for me. I can’t deal with liars, pretenders and indecisive people irritate me. He may have a somewhat justifiable reason for behaving the way he did but the way I see it making false promises in any circumstance, most especially one where you do not have to is not plausible. If I ever meet him in person there’s a high chance that I will have less respect for him than any other stranger. Even if I meet him and he ticked a lot of my other boxes I know I will not be attracted to him for sure because of how he has behaved.


General thoughts/comments

I want to say thank you to all of my dedicated readers. To date I have more page views than I thought I would have. I appreciate the comments on this site and those I get in person. And to my friend who said going on a date with me whilst I’m doing this challenge is basically going on a dead end date, that’s not true. If I go on a date with a guy and I find out that I’m attracted to him I will make sure it progresses into something special if the guy feels the same way about me. I know I may come across as cold and as if my standard is too high but the truth of the matter is I can’t fall too easily for guys if I’m going on 26 dates in the year; it will make it very hard for me to continue this challenge.

As some of you may know I will be 23 in a couple of months. When I stop to take in the fact that I’m still single and I look around me at the type of guys that are still available and the ones that are taken I get slightly worried because occasionally when I meet someone and I think: he is definitely my type, 9/10 times the guy is taken or if he is not taken I later on find out that he is actually not my type. My mum and the rest of my family think it’s quite a serious issue that I’m still single and my mum would like me to get married this year. I don’t think she has considered how unrealistic that wish is but in my mummy’s eyes nothing is unattainable for her eldest daughter.

Thank you for reading date 4 of 26, if I have left anything out or if there’s anything that you’d like to know please leave me a comment below.



Culled from http://mydatingyear.blogspot.com.ng/search?updated-max=2012-03-31T18:35:00%2B01:00&max-results=7&start=14&by-date=false

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